I will write this in English because It’s easier but I understand Norwegian too.
I’m so tired of no one understanding me. I have been afraid of making mistakes since I was 10 and It’s the reason I quitted all of my hobbies. I’m scared to ask a cashier about something, order food or talk with doctors, I just feel very nervous. Therefore I have been trying to avoid all my presentations in school and It’s written on all of my grades that I’m doing good when it comes to writing but I have to start speaking more. I also missed a presentation this year and my parents got a message from the school that I had not done the presentation. My dad had a whole lecture on how I should be more social and that’s what everybody is doing and that I’m just lazy. I feel that no one understands that I am very scared to talk in public. I also stutter a lot so that’s the part of the reason I’m scared too. Any tips on how to be less afraid is appreciated.
It is hard to overcome such a powerful feeling on your own, especially when you feel like nobody is listening or understands you.
My tip to you would be to try and communicate your struggle to your parents and to the school.
And since it might be hard for you to do so verbally, you could do it in writing. Write down what you want other people to understand, and how it all makes you feel.
And also consider asking for help at the same time. The nervousness, or possible anxiety, can become harder to deal with if you close up and keep it to yourself.
I understand that it might be hard to ask for help, but I assure you that not doing so might make things harder for you down the line.
I hope things get better for you, and that you get the help and support you deserve.
Hi, it’s like reading what I felt as a child. Now as an adult I seeks help from a professional and it ended up unpacking lots of stuff from that voulneruble part of my life and feeling like no one gets me or everyone kept telling me what not to do or how I should do something. And it just didn’t feel right for me at that point. My problem was that I didn’t get any support form people around me, ot at least the right kind og support. I kept forming an opinion about myself that acctualy is not my opinion but other peoples opinion about me. And that has nothing to do with you as a person. But it affects your selfasteam. I turned to writing, it was waaaaay easier for me to express my feelings and thought in writen than in person lt in front of people. Share that with your teachers and parents. It worked for me, so maybe it could work for you too. Put it all in writing and trust yourself.