Hva gjør normale ungdommer?

Jeg kan flytende norsk, bare skriver på engelsk siden det er lettere. Har ingen problemer med å lese norsk:)

Before i move onto my main question, i should probably say some stuff about myself. I’m 18, a girl, and go to a special needs vgs program where i complete my general studies courses over a longer period of time. For example, i’m done with all English and Science, i’m currently in Vg2 math and in Vg1 Norwegian. I go to school alone and have one on one sessions with my teachers. Although i have friends, only two friends of mine live nearby. The rest are about an hour away. I primarily talk to my friends over text, and usually don’t leave the house. Going out to see a friend is something i consider a special occasion, since it doesn’t happen often. Although i have 5 (maybe 6?) friends, none of them know each other and i only consistently talk to one of them. I like drawing, playing drums (although i rarely do it), video games, cartoons, comic books, and marvel. My passion is science. On a weekly basis, i only leave home to go to school, or maybe the store. I also go to a cafe three times a week to study with my brother. I hang out most of the time with my brother, but he doesn’t like most of my friends so i can’t include him if im going out. Now that i’ve mentioned myself, I’ll move onto the main problem.

What do normal teenagers do?

I can’t hold a job, literally. That’s why i have AAP from NAV. Going outside is a special occasion for me. I don’t have any extracurricular activities, and i barely talk to anyone outside of family. I’m not happy. I can feel happiness and excitement and strong feelings, but my default setting is dull. Every night when i go to bed i feel dull and bland. Every day after school, i’m usually so tired i just lay in bed until my brother tells me he’s free to hang out. I need to change, and i know that i’m probably the main problem. My therapist said that my trauma is relational, and that individual therapy would take years to maybe help my feelings of depression. That’s why she recommended family therapy, which is currently being looked into.

Anyways, if i’m gonna manually change for the better, i need to know what normal looks like. How often should i go outside? How often should i hang out with friends? That kind of thing. I know that im the only person who can really decide that - but it would help if i at least had an idea of what a normal teenager who’s relatively happy does- so i can start with that as a base to improve.

What does a normal teenager do? Do you have any other suggestions that could make me happy? Thanks anyways and sorry for the ramble.

Jeg kjenner meg veldig igjen i det du skriver. Og det høres ut som at du kanskje er utbrent. Følelsen av å være nummen eller “dull”, som du skriver, jeg hadde det sånn når jeg var rundt 18(25 nå) og jeg kan fortsatt føle meg mentalt sliten. Jeg er så klart ingen ekspert, men hvis det er utbrenthet, så tror jeg det er viktig å ikke pushe degselv for hardt og heller tillate degselv en god pause. Når det kommer til det normale, dette er bare min mening, men jeg tror ikke det er noe som egentlig er “normalt”, det viktigste er heller å finne ut hva som virker for degselv. Å føle seg på utsiden av det “normale” er ikke lett å deale med, men i mitt hode så er det bedre å lære å bli komfortabel i seg selv enn å tvinge seg selv til å passe inn. “Normal”, for meg, er det samme som perfekt, det er bare en urimelig standard folk har lagd. Finn heller ut hva som er normalt for deg og ta det derifra.
Jeg vet ikke om noe av dette hjelper i noen grad, men jeg håper :)