En 46 år gammel arbeidsinnvandrer og IT-utvikler i Norge beskriver sterk jobbstress, ensomhet og selvtvil – han strever med tanker om jobbsikkerhet, opprykk, tillit og språkbarrierer, og føler seg urettferdig behandlet og mentalt utmattet av den indre kon

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Hei, Jeg er ny her. Jeg er arbeidsinnvandrere og 46 år gammel. Jeg kom til Norge for åtte år siden, og jeg jobber som på IT-utvikler. Jeg kan litt norsk men jeg skriver vanligvis på engelsk. Jeg vil gjerne øve mer og bli bedre neste gang. Beklager for det.

I work in this company for close to 7 years, 3 years as a consultant and 4 years as employee. I am the only bread winner for my family i have 3 kids and wife has started working 5 months ago. There was a racing taughts going on in to my mind releated to job which it started 18 months ago. I am not be to come out from it. The stress is related to job, related to promotion and self respect. Sometime i feel so lonely in the team and i feel i was cornered to move out. I always follow the rules and regulation. I feel to turn off/shutdown my brain for some time. As so many taughts going like below. I could not able to come out from it.

  1. Search for New job
  2. Stay in the company as you are the bread winner
  3. Business taughts
  4. Dont trust people especially those you trusted a lot with co workers they dont help you.
  5. What is wrong with me, why i am like this hard to digest the thing which has happened for me.
  6. I have not done any thing, the mistake is not on my side, why i should be the sufferer for someones mistake.
  7. Am i avoided for the position as i dont speak Norwegian

I am not sure if i can share all the info about me publically, so i am stopping here.

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Hi! Good to see that you are reaching out! That is super important!

I moved to Norway 12 years ago. I am autistic with adhd, so I have had my share of… challenges :D

Anyhow. What I see in the things you write, that a fresh perspective could be beneficial.

1st - Your job MUST have someone you can talk to, HR or your manager or whoever else.
2nd - You cam read up and find out about Bedrifts Helsetjeneste - even if you are not sick, the psychological/social work environment is affecting your mental health - they are supposed to help.
3rd - Norwegian law addresses psychological/social work environment. Please, read up on these topics, this stuff exists exactly so that we would have good work environment.

As an “innvandrer” it can really be lonely, but since you have wife and kids - you have close people next to you, the emotional connection starts there. I will have to advice therapy - there is so much we can “turn around” in our lives by just addressing everything we have inside of ourselves, and therapy is an amazing opportunity to get help with such!

Best of luck!